The Secret Lives Of Mormon Wives' Demi And Bret Engemann Relationship History

On The Secret Life of Mormon Wives, Demi and Bret Engemann stand out among their cast mates. Their age difference has gotten attention on the show and their blended family makes them unique in the Mormon community.

Demi and Bret were both married before they wed in 2021, with Bret having previously wed Angie Harrington from The Real Housewives of Salt Lake City. He also had a second marriage, although the identity of that former wife is not clear. Demi, for her part, was married to Blake Corbin. As a result of these relationships, Bret has two sons, Rome and Cole, while Demi has a daughter, Maude.

Exactly how Demi and Bret met, their connection over the years, and what led to their journey down the aisle now remains fascinating to fans of The Secret Life of Mormon Wives. Here's the timeline of their relationship.

8 Demi And Bret Engemann First Crossed Paths When She Was About Nine Years Old

Demi (nee May) Engemann said on TikTok in 2023 that she came to know her now-husband, Brett, through a family friend. Bret was 16 years older than Demi. Demi explained that she may not have met Bret at the time because,

When I was 9 years old, he was married to his first wife and having babies. And I honestly don't think we ever met or crossed paths, which is so insane because the family friend that I knew him through was one of my best friends growing up and I was over there all the time and he was always over there all the time but we always somehow missed each other or maybe we didn't realize because of the huge age gap.

7 When Bret Was At BYU, Demi Had 'An Innocent Little Girl Crush'

It was difficult for anyone in Utah with an awareness of college football to not know who Bret Engemann was. Between 1999 and 2002, Bret was a star quarterback for Brigham Young University but also met Angie Harringtonfrom The Real Housewives of Salt Lake City there. They wed and had two children together, sons named Rome and Cole.

Their divorce helped Angie prepare for her future on RHOSLC:

"I’ve learned not to care what people think. I had a very public divorce in Utah Valley. And my ex-husband was kind of the golden boy of Provo. So, that prepared me for reality television."

Bret also entered the NFL briefly and played in Europe professionally for a time.

6 Bret Was Married Again Between His Marriages To Angie and Demi

There's not a lot of clarity about the relationship, but Demi Engemann once said that her husband was married to another girl for a brief time. This took place six years after his first marriage and, because it didn't last long, their split was "more like an annulment."

5 When Demi Was 18, Bret Followed Her On Instagram

Demi started dating her first husband, Blake Corbin, during her teens. During a break in that relationship, Demi noticed that Bret followed her on Instagram. At the time, she didn't act because, in her words, Demi heard Bret was a "bad boy."

4 Demi Married Her First Husband In 2015 And They Were Together For Six Years

Demi and Blake Corbin got married in 2015. The couple had a daughter and, when Blake and Bret became friends at the gym, she crossed paths with him again. Before Maude was born, "Things were going well with [Blake]. We were excited we were going to have a baby." Ultimately,

"Having Maude and then dealing with postpartum depression and really bad anxiety and just all that comes with being a new mom, and it absolutely rocked my world and my ex-husband’s and I’s marriage."

3 Bret Engemann Was Cast On The Bachelorette In 2020

Bret joined the contestant pool for season 16 of The Bachelorette and hoped to woo Clare Crawley. It was actually Demi and Blake who submitted Bret's name for consideration on The Bachelorette. Demi recalled,

My then-husband goes up to him and is talking to him about some business stuff and Bret had a connection at a modeling agency and we were trying to get Maude into doing some baby modeling stuff. They're talking about that and I come up and ask Bret what his status was with relationships... He tells us that he's single and I suggest that he go on The Bachelorette."

When production healed due to the coronavirus pandemic, Bret was sent home. He told the Deseret News that he did not return when The Bachelorette resumed because,

"My sons needed me to help coach during football season and I would have missed the first few games if I went on the show. Just bad timing for me."

2 Demi Reached Out To Bret After He Returned From The Bachelorette

When Demi noticed Bret had changed his Instagram account back to available, she contacted him. Demi was still in the process of divorcing Blake Corbin but, after she moved out of their home, she went on her first date with Bret.

Demi described her connection with Bret as "like a movie... everything made sense and we just had this... instant chemistry."

1 Bret And Demi Dated For 10 Months Before Getting Engaged

Bret and Demi split for a time after their connection went public. Demi wasn't ready for the attention and broke up with Bret after photos of them together were leaked to the press.

Demi later realized she had made a mistake. They reunited and dated for 10 months before Bret proposed. The pair wed in April 2021. Demi was 27 at the time and Bret was 43, and they've been happily married ever since.